1. Make time for love and romance. Time can certainly slip away from you and you can put love making on the back burner, figuring you’ll get to it when things calm down. If you’re like most people, you have to make time for what’s important in your life. If intimate time with your partner is important to you, make time for it. If being spontaneous never seems to work out, schedule a “love date” and then don’t allow “life” to get in the way.
2. If you don’t feel like making love, say so, but be honest with your partner and yourself why you don’t feel like it. Sounds simple but sometimes it isn’t. Very often, physical ailments-real or imagined-are allowed to interfere with being intimate. Sometimes you just are too tired and love making is the furthest thing from your mind. Whatever the case, be honest with your partner and then make a “date” when you know that you’ll feel better or have more time to devote to each other. Don’t use the old “I have a headache” excuse when you are really feeling disconnection from your partner. Deal with the issue and you’ll feel better.
3. Focus on each other and not on the kids or your work. Clear your mind from extraneous thoughts, worries and fears when you come together for love-making. If it isn’t possible to do that, tell your partner that you need some time and then take a walk to clear your head. You may need to talk about some problem or clear up some issue with your partner. Do it and then focus on how much you love each other.
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